engineeringdreams: 13. Life goal(s)
This is a complex question, sir. So instead of organizing my thoughts to give you a complete answer I’m just going to wing it.
I witnessed the end of a person’s life this week. The number of people that showed up for his funeral really packed the house, and they were from all over the world. People that couldn’t make it instead mailed in letters that could fill a library with script and prose in remembrance. There wasn’t a set of dry eyes in the place.
When you see people that really make an impact with their lives it changes you. Material objects start to feel like cheap toys in your hand, because who really gives a fuck about the iPhone 578347s… Instead you key in on experiences you have with people that fuel you, and you start replicating those with more people. Those memories that we make, the good and the bad, they fuel us but they depend on what we bring to the moment.
Our attitudes are contagious. Negativity is easy, you literally do not have to do anything to be negative, you just need an opinion. Everyone has an opinion. But optimism is harder, it takes work, it takes good will, it takes discipline, it takes everything from us - blood, sweat, and tears - But we change people when we inspire them, and lasting inspiration comes from ridiculous hours of labor.
"What is to give light, must endure burning."
I spent 24 hours with the loveliest woman this summer. Just 24 hours and this woman changed how I felt about the entire direction I chose for my life. Let me tell you, she put way more than 24 hours in to change her own.
Her name is Beth.
Damn… I’m not sure I have the words to convince you just how much this lady loves what she does. She must, it takes so much from her; to perform, to write, literally moving the crowd of people watching her shows (I saw them dancing at their tables!).
Beth is quite a strong personality, and do you know why she is? Because she chooses to be. She chooses to stop placating herself, to put away the day job and to get on stage every week and rock the living shit out of the crowd. She chooses sleepless nights, obsessive fans, and an ever-changing/ unforgiving environment of entertainment. She has been making herself into exactly the woman she wants to be. No more bullshit.
That is brave. It’s amazing to watch her do her thing, seeing her affect everyone she touches, because her happiness infects them all, it makes them laugh, it makes them dance, it makes them sing, and smile, but most importantly - it lights a fire under their ass.
I want to make an impact like that. I want to be so in love with my life that I bring enjoyment to others in theirs. I don’t have to fill a church at my funeral, or even get people to dance on their tables at a concert, but as long as I can change one life for the better, for even just one night, I think I’ve succeeded at something. Because maybe then, they’ll change someone else’s life, who in turn will change another’s. And maybe we can change the world for the better.
To say that I am humbled, honored and blown away is an understatement of massive proportion. Thank you. I will have your words forever.